Question 1

Where in your life are you performing gratitude to manage someone else's comfort with your ambition? Name the specific person or institution whose approval you are managing.

Question 2

When you think about what you want next, do you immediately feel the need to qualify it, soften it, or apologize for its size? What is the earliest version of that reflex you can locate?

Question 3

Name one thing you are genuinely, freely grateful for, in a way that costs you nothing and asks nothing of you. Notice the difference in your body between that feeling and the obligatory gratitude you have been performing.

Question 4

What would you reach for if your gratitude were not being used as a ceiling?