Question 1

Name one person in your current life with whom you do not feel required to perform. If you cannot name one, that is the most important data this chapter contains. *(Listening for: the presence or absence of a relationship that is free of performance. The quality of the answer, and its specificity, are both telling.)*

Question 2

When was the last time you were genuinely fed by an interaction, in the way the body knows it has been fed? What was different about that interaction compared to your usual social and professional ones? *(Listening for: the qualities that distinguish nourishment from applause. The person's description of what made it different often reveals what is missing in their regular interactions.)*

Question 3

Has the performance you bring to professional life begun to appear in personal relationships? Name one place this has happened. *(Listening for: the colonization of intimate space by professional register. This is extremely common and almost never intentional.)*

Question 4

Who in your life has been waiting for Job while you were busy being Dr. Mogire, or your own equivalent of that distinction? *(Listening for: the specific named person, and what it costs the person to recognize that the waiting is happening.)* ---